The generosity of people can sometimes be uncalled for, like free-advice on parenting. Sure it comes handy at the initial phase for first time parents, but then no-one wants an expert comment over each and every action you take concerning you and your kid. At the end of the day it’s your life. You have the right to carve out your own parenting path. Isn’t it?
Bet you had been welcoming your grandma’s advice and noting down the tips your next-door neighbor gave when you were pregnant with your first child, but then, it got irksome after a while. Poking their nose in all your activities and criticizing all your decisions. Doesn’t your ears hurt and are you not sick of hearing all those crappy pieces of advice again and again. Apologies in advance, as we list down what you’ve already heard a thousand times. But this time, only to justify why it’s absolutely correct on your part to be tired of hearing these words of wisdom.It’s time for you to laugh off when while reading through you have your deja-vu moment(s).
Don’t buy gender specific toys:
Why shouldn’t you? If your little girl likes barbies give them barbies. But if she puts her hands on a aeroplane or a car, don’t you hesitate to buy them too. The argument that gender specific toys are a way of trapping the little souls into a biased social construct is just, but if you really try to there is always a way out without enforcing your choices on the child. Like for example, take a Tinkerbell barbie - she is not just a pretty fairy doll, she is empowering- a fairy that takes from the resources of nature to make Fairy Hollow a great place for her fellows. So yes if you don’t welcome the advice of not buying gender specific toys, or it’s going against your child’s wishes, feel free to ignore.
Recommended: Tips and Tricks By Mom to Build Strong Immunity in Babies!
Don’t Upload Their Photographs on Social Media:
Why not? Will that subject your baby to evil eye, or wait... Did you just got the argument that it interferes with the quality time you spend with your kid? Wave them off! You know the reality. Yes, for some life is all about a social media display, but is it for you? If not, it doesn’t matter what others say. You go by your own rules. You love your child, you like capturing all the sweet moments with her. You like sharing the joy of having her in life with your friends and relatives, so be it. Get going, there is no harm. Ten year down the line these pictures and videos will stay with you to re-live the wonderful past. For the free-suggestion givers, nothing at all.
Don’t buy junk food for your kids:
So they caught you buying the burger and french fries for your boys, and there came the immediate advice- Don’t buy all that junk for your kids. Hmm.. Smile and let it go. People love to tell you all the time that you are going wrong. Not because they are trying to find harm in your parenting, but as a reminder to them, that they know healthy ways of bringing up their own kids. Sure, that they don’t know it is a rare indulgence you are offering to your kids after a long time. And if is not then you better not feel sick of hearing it out. The advice is good.
Interesting: Boosting Your Baby's Brain Development Tips
Parenting Gets Easier:
Oh does it? The advice does always come with good intentions, but yes, one does get sick of it being re-iterated all the time. The support and empathy is welcomed at times of stress. But beyond a point everything seems too much. And well, isn’t it an empty consoling. We all know, it is not going to get easier, the challenges will keep on changing but they will not stop. Becoming a parent is a life long responsibility you take on your shoulders, and coming terms with the ground reality the sooner is the better. So don’t get into the trap of such words, and don’t cry out thinking- everybody said so, but why is it not happening? Because it’s not meant to be.
Happy parenting :)